I confess it's been a while since I read the book, but I did love it, and I found this miniseries more or less gelled with what vague memories I had. Just a thought on your complaint about Rochester lying to Jane: maybe it makes some kind of sense if you think of it as Rochester trying to convince himself, as much as her, that he is capable of being a chaste lover. He wants to believe that he's capable of being as good as she is, that he's capable of being worthy of her, and so these... "predictions" about their unmarried life together are not so much lies as inaccurate wishful thinking. I don't know, what do you think?